Recently I made a Facebook post that said, "On the days when all you feel you can do is cry. Just cry"; and within minutes of posting this short food for thought, I received more sympathy and well wishes than the majority of all my posts combined. ..because apparently, when you cry, there is something drastically wrong and needs to be fixed.
Although I genuinely appreciate the love from my Facebook Fam; it occured to me that perhaps this misconception about the act of crying, keeps others from voicing their feelings and honoring those moments when all seem lost and against them. These feelings were luckily for me, passing - but that isn't always the case for others. There are many reasons for feeling down, some serious and need expert support; while others, like me, just need to vocalize what is happening inside.
After my late morning sentiment I proceeded to knock off everything on my to-do list. And believe me it was no meager list. It was as if a weight was lifted from my...
Can you remember the last time you sat quietly with the sunlight shining upon your face while sipping a cup of tea? Or the last time you watched the sun set and listened to birds chirp as the day turned into night? Perhaps these are not your ideals of taking a moment for yourself but with that in mind, when was the last time you truly took a moment for yourself? Alone. No distractions. To just be?
Being a mama is no joke, and being a single mama deserves more praise than I can ever express. We work hard, work hard, and work hard. But where is our play? Joy? Nourishment?
I remember the first day my ex-husband and I started our new custody arrangement with my little ones. My boys were 1½ years old and 4½ months. It was the first time I would be away from my children for longer than one night; and besides the discomfort of not being with them, I had absolutely no idea what to do with myself.
Friends (mostly single, sans children) would tell me I was so lucky to have my...
“Life is a voyage of self discovery…It’s not selfish to love ourselves.” ~ Louise Hay
Most of us are taught and conditioned at a young age that one of the major purposes in life is to find companionship. Whether it be marriage or a committed partnership — if you are able to make this happen, then you are in the upper echelon of humans. And even though we know (and most likely have experienced) the statistics about marriage and divorce, breakups and sorrow; we continue to seek this ever elusive prize. But the one thing we are never taught in those formative years is the fact that the meeting of “the one”, falling madly and deeply in love with another, cannot and will not be fulfilled if we are unable to love ourselves.
Relationships are not easy. They are in fact, work. And sadly, most people don’t like to do work; especially on themselves. We think that if we can just make this person happy, they will love me and every...